Lessons From The Rubble

How adversity, waiting, and setbacks shape wiser leaders.

Easy times are… enjoyable.

They are also poor teachers.

Comfort can build confidence, but adversity often builds character. Success may reveal our strengths, but hardship reveals who we are becoming.

My parents had lifelong dream of planting a church in their hometown of Piedmont, Alabama. Around 20 years ago, they realized their dream and did exactly that. Later, after years of sacrifice, faithful stewardship, volunteer labor, and prayer, the congregation finally reached a milestone worth celebrating: the church mortgage was paid off!

It was such a beautiful time of relief – for about one week.

Then a tornado came.

In a matter of minutes, much of what had been built was damaged. Plans changed. Expectations changed. The future suddenly looked uncertain. No leadership seminar prepares someone for standing among debris while trying to encourage people who are grieving losses of their own.

Storms rarely ask whether it is a convenient time to arrive.

Yet some of leadership’s most important lessons are learned right there – in the storm and the aftermath.

The first lesson is that suffering often deepens empathy. Leaders who have walked through disappointment, loss, uncertainty, or failure tend to judge others less harshly. They understand that life is more complicated than it appears from a distance. They know that behind many struggles are stories no one else can see.

The second lesson is that leadership is often less about having answers and more about being present. During difficult seasons, people rarely remember the perfectly crafted speech. They remember who showed up. They remember who stayed. They remember who helped carry the burden.

Rebuilding after the tornado did not happen quickly. It happened through hundreds of ordinary decisions: volunteers showing up, neighbors helping neighbors, leaders choosing hope when discouragement would have been easier.

Comebacks are often a bit boring rather than dramatic.

Most are simply a series of faithful choices repeated over time.

The story did not end with replacing what had been lost.

Insurance covered much of the rebuilding. The surrounding community wanted to help restore the church as well. Together, they made a remarkable decision. Rather than merely rebuilding exactly what had existed before, they used resources to dig a hole – and construct a basement storm shelter.

The storm changed the church.

But it also expanded the church’s ability to serve and protect future generations.

That is Kintsugi Leadership.

The goal of healing is not to pretend the storm never happened. The goal is to allow what we have endured to increase our capacity for wisdom, compassion, and service.

Many of us spend enormous energy trying to avoid hardship. Understandably so. Storms hurt. They disrupt plans, exhaust resources, and force us to rebuild parts of our lives we thought were secure.

But easy times cannot teach everything leaders need to know.

Some lessons can only be learned in the rubble.

The leaders I trust most aren’t the ones who have avoided hardship. They are often those who have suffered, rebuilt, waited, started again, and emerged with softer hearts, deeper wisdom, and greater compassion.

Life may not get easier.

But if we allow it, we can become wiser.

If you’re in a rebuilding season right now, don’t rush the process. The storm may have changed your plans, but it may also be preparing you to serve others in ways you cannot yet imagine.

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