Emotional Intelligence -- Clarity in Communication

I’ve been swimming in lagoons filled with jellyfish, stingrays, and even sharks — and felt completely at peace. Why? Because I could see them. I could prepare, respect the danger, and still marvel at the beauty. But drop me in a murky swamp, where I can’t see what’s beneath me? That’s different.

I’m not afraid of snakes, alligators, or “trees with knees.” I even love airboat rides and documentaries about anacondas. But I’m terrified of swamps. The deep ocean doesn’t bother me — I spent years of my childhood in the shark-infested waters of the Marshall Islands, watching massive rays glide beneath me and lionfish dance around coral heads. The difference wasn’t danger. It was visibility.

When I can see what’s around me, I can breathe. I can adjust. I can respect the risk without surrendering to it.

But in a swamp — where the water is opaque and the ground itself might shift — my imagination starts doing the talking. What I can’t see becomes what I fear.

That’s exactly what happens in organizations when communication breaks down.

Miscommunication turns workplace waters murky.

Assumptions, half-truths, and hidden agendas create shadows where fear thrives.

When motives are unclear, people start to wonder:

“Is it safe to speak up?”

“Why wasn’t I told sooner?”

“What’s really going on?”

And just like that, calm turns to chaos. People stop trusting. They start treading water, protecting themselves instead of each other.

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Emotional intelligence is leadership’s visibility tool. It clears the water.

It lets you see your own reactions, your team’s fears, and the shape of what’s really moving beneath the surface.

When we slow down enough to name what we’re feeling, we give others permission to do the same. When we get curious instead of defensive, communication becomes clear again. Fear loses its footing.

This is the pause — the moment between emotion and reaction — where calm leadership is born.

It’s the split-second choice to see before you speak, to understand before you assume.

As Maya Angelou wisely said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

But first, we have to be paying attention.

Healthy cultures aren’t calm because nothing ever goes wrong; they’re calm because people know how to respond when it does. Emotional intelligence doesn’t eliminate danger — it makes it visible. It helps us interpret reactions, predict patterns, and read the emotional current before it pulls us under.

Teams with high emotional intelligence don’t waste energy on guessing games. They ask questions. They clarify. They communicate early and often, even when it’s uncomfortable.

The result? Less panic, more perspective.

A calm culture isn’t silent — it’s steady.

It’s the sound of people who trust each other enough to tell the truth.

So, before you dive into your next difficult conversation, pause. Take a breath. Look beneath the surface.

Is this fear or feedback?

Is this resistance or exhaustion?

Is this anger, or simply a plea to be heard?

Leaders who learn to see emotions clearly lead teams that stay steady even when the waters churn.

Because clarity doesn’t remove the danger — it reveals it.

And that visibility is what keeps culture safe.

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